3/18/2016: Contradictions

A new book I ordered arrived this morning: “Bad Feminist” by Roxane Gay. The title intrigued me when my bff @leahloustyle recommended it because for years I’ve steered clear of anything labeled “feminist” for exactly the reasons that @roxanegay74 outlines in the first essay of the book. That she doesn’t live up to the often strict standards that a quote “Professional Feminist” should. She writes: “I embrace the label of *bad feminist* because I am human. I am messy.”

As I dove in further with my morning coffee, what struck me from the first few pages was exactly what I shared with you guys yesterday. That we — as women and, more broadly, as humans — are full of contradictions. We are not ALL this or COMPLETELY that. We’re principled AND we’re flawed.

It reminded me of a great interview I watched the other day with @garyvee. One of the most interesting parts to me was when he talked about his “always on” relationship with social media. Talking about the dichotomy between his love of constant stimulation and but also his disregard for what people think of him, he said “I need it, but I don’t NEED it.” The paradox of this statement might be frustrating to some, but to me it was the most human thing he said. Gary’s full of all sorts of contradictions and the more I see them, the more I can look past my reflexive dismissal of his “hustle culture” and see him for the nuanced human that he is. This idea of delighting in contradictions has never been more beautifully stated than by my favorite @elizabeth_gilbert_writer in #BigMagic here:

“Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred. What we make matters enormously, and it doesn’t matter at all. We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits. We are terrified, and we are brave. Art is a crushing chore and a wonderful privilege. Only when we are at our most playful can divinity finally get serious with us. Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise—you can make anything.” Revel in your contradictions and embrace them. They make YOU and the world more interesting.