4/25/2016: Vulnerable

Today’s message comes straight from my Monday morning newsletter to #selfmadesociety (if you’re not signed up, head to madevibrant.com/newsletter to join!) This cold of mine is still digging its claws in to my immune system, and feeling sick has to be one of my least favorite feelings. When your body isn’t at its best, it feels like a physical representation of weakness. As I described in today’s letter, I grew up with the understanding that weakness is bad and strength is good.

But what if we started to see our weakness not as something bad, but as something inevitable. What if we learned to view vulnerability as one stop of the many different destinations on the spectrum of being human.

One quote that I found particularly beautiful in illustrating this sentiment was from poet and philosopher David Whyte via @brainpicker:

“The only choice we have as we mature is how we inhabit our vulnerability, how we become larger and more courageous and more compassionate through our intimacy with disappearance, our choice is to inhabit vulnerability as generous citizens of loss, robustly and fully, or conversely, as misers and complainers, reluctant and fearful, always at the gates of existence, but never bravely and completely attempting to enter, never wanting to risk ourselves, never walking fully through the door.”

To be vulnerable is to be human. To be FULLY human or whole-heartedly human as @brenebrown would say.

I’m deciding to use my current sickness as a reminder to never feel shame in those weaker moments because why should I be ashamed of being human? Why should any of us?